WRITING A BLOG

Im somewhat new to this thing, I meant about "Blogging" not writing. Writing is that one thing I have been doing ever since I learnt how to write. I think that came to me naturally as I used to be a bookworm. My Mother says that even when I sat on the baby potty seat, when I was merely four- five years old, there was always a book on my hands. So what to say about the rest of the day? But of course I was an outdoor cat too, a pretty wild one. 

There is this man who did wonders with myself and blogging was his idea, which wasn't much of a surprise that came from him because he is full of wonders. So he made a blog for me, not one but couple of them and asked me just write. I was reluctant to do so but at some point it completely amazed me by being this thing that I can think and freely express myself. 

I do not know whether this has got into me yet as how it supposed to be, but I feel its a potential that i should be excited to be a part of. Blogging let you express yourself under your own identity or as an anonymous player. I prefer the latter due to the reason that then I do not need to wear a mask or be confused on any perspectives. 

So here I am, thanks to the wonderful man and lets see what I will be doing here. 

HAPPY 5TH ANNIVERSARY

WHY IS IT SO IMPORTANT WHOM YOU LET IN TO YOUR FAMILY?

 

What is a Family?

FAMILY is the smallest unit or group that represent unity, love and togetherness. This differs from any other sort of organization or union simply by its motive. Here, the word “motive” represents the target or the final outcome any togetherness aims to fulfil. Organizations are formed to fulfil some agreed duties aiming a certain mission or result. Unlike any such sort, family is a bonded unit with no such aim to fulfill but cherishes being together with each member of this simple harmony.

Normally a family is built upon a marriage between a man and a woman and grows when they get children. Therefore a basic family is consist of a father, mother, daughter(s) and son(s). These personals individually play a certain role in their respective family either based on what the societies perspective or the traditional background or their own expectations and plans of a family. Taking the world as a whole context mainly how these characters are expected to behave is based on their geographical location, eastern (i.e. Asian) or western.

Family Concept and Duties

While in Asian countries are regarded as male dominant, feminism and masculinity is highly debatable in Western context. In Asian countries the mother figure is treated as the goddess (Angel) of a family and in Western countries single mother and single father concepts are in discussion. But ultimately these all perspectives can be narrowed down to; father- “the provider” and the mother as the “caretaker”. The children are supposed to learn, take motives and act as per the guidance of these two mother-father figures.

What if someone other than the mother-father characters are included in to the family unit? The question is will it affect the balance in the family or will it make the family stronger. I suppose this all lies beneath the answer on WHOM you let into your family. This matter because everyone in a family brings something in to the table. Mother – father figures are supposed to BRING things to the table (food, living, education..etc.), while the children are supposed to TAKE what’s being given to the table, in order to CREATE a FUTURE for the family. So in other words from father-mother to the kid everyone ultimately BRINGS something to the table (family). If someone is bought outside from these characters and introduced to the family it highly matters what he/she is bring to the family. The balance of a family relies on this BRINGING and TAKING.

Whom you let in to your Family and the Effects

Some choose out of love, while some are forced by the traditions to live with their parents/ elders after marriage. Parents in any context is regarded as the guidance for their kids where kids are expected to proceed in their parents’ foot prints, regardless of what it serves. Parents’ parents’ or the grand parents are expected be the independent visualizers of their grandchildren’s steps. Regular eye of your parents (grandparents to your kids) comes handy with both good and bad influences. Your parents/ elders might have unfulfilled dreams that they expected you to fulfill, or they might have a certain studied framework of how a perfect family should be. In both cases they will expect your children to fulfil those dreams for them or they might want you to maintain your family according to their ideology.

How to maintain the balance? 

This is the most important section to follow with and I will be pointing down few figured facts which can smooth your family life. 

1. Every member of the family should have a clear idea on WHO they are and HOW they can bring value to the family. Grand parents should have the idea that there are their children and grand children who will look up to their advices and guidance at any point of time, which requires them to behave patient and better shape at all times.

2. Parents should have the understanding that they are bound with the responsibility over to their parents in their old times. This should come handy with patience, love and freedom. Grand parents can be messy, tricky and lousy and the house owners should understand this reality and educate their kids of treating their grand parents. 

3. Aunties, uncles if joining with the family should have the understanding that THIS is a separate family, which you are welcomed out of respect. They should be thoughtful not to interrupt the ongoing family proceedings viz. kid's manners, house hold proceedings, personal events.